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[texts]The Misanthropic Altruist and Compulsive Giver - Sam Vaknin
The act of giving enhances the narcissist's sense of omnipotence, his fantastic grandiosity, and the contempt he holds for others. It is easy to feel superior to the supplicating recipients of one's largesse. Narcissistic altruism is about exerting control and maintaining it by fostering dependence in the beneficiaries.
Keywords: giver; altruist; altruism; charity; philanthropy; gifts; control freak; narcissist; narcissism; narcissistic personality disorder; misanthrope
Downloads: 50
[movies]Narcissist's Language as Weapon - Sam Vaknin
With the classic narcissist, language is used cruelly and ruthlessly to ensnare one's enemies, to saw confusion and panic, to move others to emulate the narcissist ("projective identification"), to leave the listeners in doubt, in hesitation, in paralysis, to gain control, or to punish. Language is enslaved and forced to lie. The language is appropriated and expropriated. It is considered to be a weapon, an asset, a piece of lethal property, a traitorous mistress to be gang raped into submission...
Keywords: narcissist; narcissism; language; speech; lecture; semiotics; semantics; obfuscation; ambiguity; equivocal; incomprehensible; narcissistic personality disorder
Downloads: 156
[texts]Narcissists HATE Holidays - Sam Vaknin
"I hate holidays and birthdays, including my birthday. It is because I hate it when other people are happy if I am not the cause of it. I have to be the prime mover and shaker of EVERYONE's mood. And no one will tell me HOW I should feel. I am my own master. I feel that their happiness is false, fake, forced. I feel that they are hypocrites, dissimulating joy where there is none. I feel envious, humiliated by my envy, and enraged by my humiliation...
Keywords: happiness; abuse; christmas; holidays; easter; New Year; omnipotence; narcissistic personality disorder; narcissist; grandiosity; control feak
Downloads: 187
[movies]Choosing a Good Psychotherapist - Sam Vaknin
1. The therapist should be trustworthy, competent, and caring. 2. The therapist should facilitate behavioral modification in the patient by fostering hope and "stimulating emotional arousal" (as Millon puts it). In other words, the patient should be re-introduced to his repressed or stunted emotions and thereby undergo a "corrective emotional experience." 3. The therapist should help the patient develop insight about herself - a new way of looking at herself and her world and of understanding wh...
Keywords: narcissistic personality disorder; personality disorders; therapy; therapist; treatment; empathy; symptoms; signs; psychoanalysis; psychodynamic; behaviorism; dogma; dogmatic; eclectic; psychotherapy; patient
Downloads: 38
[movies]Issues in Narcissistic Supply - Sam Vaknin
Why does the narcissist devalue his Source of Secondary Narcissistic Supply (SSNS)? Could negative input serve as Narcissistic Supply (NS)? Does the narcissist want to be liked? How does the narcissist treat his former Sources of Narcissistic Supply? (From the book "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" by Sam Vaknin - Click on this link to purchase the print book, or 16 e-books, or 2 DVDs with 12 hours of video lectures on narcissists, psychopaths, and abuse in relationships: http://www.na...
Keywords: narcissistic supply; narcissism; adulation; admiration; attention; fear; emotions; obsession; compulsion; avoidance; dependence; recycling; narcissist; narcissism; narcissistic personality disorder
Downloads: 81
[movies]Narcissist: Accountable for His Actions? - Sam Vaknin
Narcissists should be held accountable for most of their actions because they can tell wrong from right and they can refrain from acting. They simply don't care enough about others to put to good use these twin abilities. Others are not sufficiently important to dent the narcissist's indifference or to alter his abusive conduct. (From the book "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" by Sam Vaknin - Click on this link to purchase the print book, or 16 e-books, or 2 DVDs with 12 hours of video...
Keywords: narcissist; narcissistic personality disorder; insanity defense; right; wrong; responsibility; accountability; mea culpa; self-control; self-discipline; fear; empathy; others
Downloads: 68
[movies]Brain Injury, Head Trauma, Personality Disorders - Sam Vaknin
Certain medical conditions can activate the narcissistic defense mechanism. Chronic ailments are likely to lead to the emergence of narcissistic traits or a narcissistic personality style. Traumas (such as brain injuries) have been known to induce states of mind akin to full-blown personality disorders. Such "narcissism", though, is reversible and tends to be ameliorated or disappear altogether when the underlying medical problem does...
Keywords: brain injury; head trauma; personality disorders; narcissism; narcissistic; frontal lobe; biochemical; serotonin; psychopharmacology; neurology; defense mechanisms; narcissistic personality disorder (NPD)
Downloads: 86
[movies]Narcissism: Multiple Personality Disorder/Dissociative Identity Disorder? - Sam Vaknin
In Multiple Personality Disorder (Dissociative Identity Disorder, or DID), the emotions are segregated into personality-like internal constructs ("entities"). The notion of "unique separate multiple whole personalities" is primitive and untrue. DID is a continuum. The inner language breaks down into polyglot chaos. In DID, emotions cannot communicate with each other for fear of provoking overwhelming pain (and its fatal consequences)...
Keywords: multiple personality; personality disorders; dissociation; alters; host personality; false self; true self; narcissism; narcissistic personality disorder; comorbidity
Downloads: 217
[movies]Narcissism Myths: Suicide, Types, Crises - Sam Vaknin
Narcissists very rarely commit suicide. They react with suicidal ideation and reactive psychoses to severe stress -- but to commit suicide runs against the grain of narcissism. This is more of a Borderline (BPD) behavior. The differential diagnosis of NPD from BPD rests on the absence of attempted suicide and self-mutilation in NPD. In response to a life crisis (divorce, public disgrace, imprisonment, accident, bankruptcy, terminal or disfiguring illness) the narcissist is likely to adopt either...
Keywords: narcissist; suicide; somatic; cerebral; sex; intellect; narcissistic supply; life crisis; therapy; treatment; myths; debunking; narcissistic personality disorder
Downloads: 141
[movies]Narcissist's Dream: The Dream (Part 1 of 2) - Sam Vaknin
"There was a woman with other people at a table about 10 feet in front of me that I found attractive, and noticed she was noticing me as well. There was also another woman with other people at a table about 30 feet to my right, old with heavy make-up and poorly dyed hair, loud, obnoxious, drunk who noticed me. She started saying negative things to me, and I tried to ignore her. She just got louder and more derogatory, with horrible rude and jabbing comments...
Keywords: narcissist; dream; interpretation; nightmare; healing; false self; personality disorder; narcissistic supply; friends; emotions; hope; fear; transformation; metamorphosis; change; narcissistic personality disorder
Downloads: 44
[movies]Can You Diagnose Your Narcissist? - Sam Vaknin
The Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is a disease. It is defined only by and in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM). All other "definitions" and compilations of "criteria" are irrelevant and very misleading. People go around putting together lists of traits and behaviors (usually based on their experience with one person who was never officially diagnosed as a narcissist) and deciding that these lists constitute the essence or definition of narcissism...
Keywords: narcissistic personality disorder; narcissism; narcissist; psychopathology; npd; diagnostic criteria; dsm; diagnosis; diagnostician; therapist; psychotherapist; psychopathology; layman; expert; psychological tests; structured interviews; questionnaires; patient; psychologist; psychiatrist
Downloads: 74
[movies]Narcissist's Dream: The Interpretation (Part 2 of 2) - Sam Vaknin
He finds himself, in the middle of the road of life, in the ugly place that is his soul. The young woman is only a promise. There is another woman "old, with heavy make-up, poorly dyed hair, loud, obnoxious, drunk". This is his mental disorder. It can scarcely sustain the deception. Its make-up is heavy, its hair dyed poorly, its mood a result of intoxication. It could well be the False Self or the Superego, but I rather think it is the whole sick personality...
Keywords: narcissistic personality disorder; narcissist; dream; interpretation; nightmare; healing; false self; personality disorder; narcissistic supply; friends; emotions; hope; fear; transformation; metamorphosis; change
Downloads: 48
[movies]Narcissist Reacts to Criticism, Disagreement, Disapproval - Sam Vaknin
Like a trapped animal, the narcissist is forever on the lookout: was this comment meant to demean him? Was this utterance a deliberate attack? Gradually, his mind turns into a chaotic battlefield of paranoia and ideas of reference until he loses touch with reality and retreats to his own world of fantasised and unchallenged grandiosity. But, hereâs the twist: When the disagreement or criticism or disapproval or approbation are public, though, the narcissist tends to regard them as Narcissistic ...
Keywords: narcissist; narcissistic personality disorder; false self; grandiosity; disagreement; narcissistic supply; criticism; disapproval; mockery; ideas of reference; slights; insult; hypervigilance; paranoid; hypervigilant; paranoid; reality; denial
Downloads: 120
[movies]Cope with Vindictive Narcissists - Sam Vaknin
Narcissists are often vindictive and they often stalk and harass. Basically, there are only two ways of coping with vindictive narcissists: frighten them or lure them. (From the book "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" by Sam Vaknin - Click on this link to purchase the print book, or 16 e-books, or 2 DVDs with 12 hours of video lectures on narcissists, psychopaths, and abuse in relationships: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/thebook.html)
Keywords: narcissist; vindictive; stalker; grudges; harassment; intimidation; paranoid; sadist; divorce; separation; breaking-up; splitting-up; marriage; fear; narcissistic supply; narcissistic personality disorder; secrets
Downloads: 173
[texts]Kiss Kill - Jeni Mawter
How do you man up when youâre down? When 16 year old Mat meets Elle she seems perfect. But over time Elle becomes more controlling and aggressive. Feeling like no one will believe him Mat isolates himself more and more. Their relationship fragments then explodes. The Kiss Kill story is told in fragments using multiple texts and transmedia. Prose is combined with scripts, songs, notes, poems, comics, essays, texting and photos...
Keywords: relationship abuse; narcissism; transmedia; Narcissistic Personality Disorder; psycho girlfriend; emaotional abuse; bullying; multiplatform storytelling; digital novel; young adult; teens to twentysomethings
Downloads: 113
[movies]Narcissist's Pain: Narcissism, Sadism, and Masochism - Sam Vaknin
When the narcissist is angry, unhappy, disappointed, injured, or hurt - he feels unable to express his emotions sincerely and openly since to do so would be to admit his frailty, his neediness, and his weaknesses. He deplores his own humanity - his emotions, his vulnerability, his susceptibility, his gullibility, his inadequacies, and his failures. So, he makes use of other people to express his pain and his frustration, his pent up anger and his aggression...
Keywords: narcissistic personality disorder; narcissist; psychopath; sadist; paranoid; masochist; sadism; masochism; punishment; self-worth; narcissistic supply; projective identification; narcissism; victims; abuse; torture; torment; taunting; insult; humiliation
Downloads: 249
[movies]Narcissistic Grandiosity Bubbles - Sam Vaknin
A Grandiosity Bubble is an imagined, self-aggrandising, narrative involving the narcissist and elements from his real life â people around him, places he frequents, or conversations he is having. The narcissist weaves a story incorporating these facts, inflating them in the process and endowing them with bogus internal meaning and consistency. In other words: he confabulates â but, this time, his confabulation is loosely based on reality...
Keywords: narcissist; narcissism; grandiosity; inflated ego; false self; confabulation; narrative; story; narcissistic supply; thespian; playacting; role; reality; narcissistic injury; idealization; devaluation; narcissistic personality disorder
Downloads: 57
[movies]Narcissists Hard to Spot - Sam Vaknin
Pathological narcissism is the art of deception. The narcissist projects a False Self and manages all his social interactions through this concocted fictional construct. People often find themselves involved with a narcissist (emotionally, in business, or otherwise) before they have a chance to discover his true nature. When the narcissist reveals his true colors, it is usually far too late. His victims are unable to separate from him...
Keywords: narcissistic personality disorder; narcissist; narcissism; society; culture; civilization; diagnosis; differential diagnoses; personality disorder; dsm; confabulation; false self; deception; sign; symptoms; signals
Downloads: 89
[movies]Schizoid and Paranoid Narcissist - Sam Vaknin
The narcissistic landscape is fraught with contradictions. The narcissist depends on people - but hates and despises them. He wants to control them unconditionally - but is also looking to punish himself savagely. He is terrified of persecution ("persecutory delusions") - but seeks the company of his own "persecutors" compulsively. The narcissist is the victim of incompatible inner dynamics, ruled by numerous vicious circles, pushed and pulled simultaneously by irresistible forces...
Keywords: schizoid; paranoid; narcissist; comorbidity; dsm; diagnoses; personality disorders; dependence; narcissistic supply; grandiosity; contempt; disdain; humiliation; resentment; narcissism; control freak; narcissistic personality disorder
Downloads: 146
[movies]Narcissists: Masculine and Feminine - Sam Vaknin
Look around you. Self absorption. Greed. Frivolity. Social anxiety. Lack of empathy. Exploitation. Abuse. These are not marginal phenomena. These are the defining traits of the West and its denizens. The West's is a narcissistic civilization. It upholds narcissistic values and penalizes the alternative value-systems. From an early age, children are taught to avoid self-criticism, to deceive themselves regarding their capacities and achievements, to feel entitled, to exploit others...
Keywords: narcissistic personality disorder; narcissism; civilization; culture; ambition; victory; triumph; aggression; violence; empathy; cruelty; male; masculine; female; feminine; children; home; body; sex; somatic; cerebral; false self; narcissistic supply; narcissist
Downloads: 80
[movies]Intimacy and Abuse - Sam Vaknin
Many abusers believe that their abusive conduct fosters, enhances, and cements their intimate relationships. To them, pathological jealousy is proof of love, possessiveness replaces mature bonding, and battering is a form of paying attention to the partner and communicating with her. Such habitual offenders do not know any better. They were often raised in families, societies, and cultures where abuse is condoned outright â or, at least, not frowned upon...
Keywords: abuse; antisocial; battering; divorce; domestic violence; dsm-iv; ego; harassment; narcissism; narcissistic; narcissistic personality disorder; npd; object relations; personality; personality disorders; psychodynamics; psychopaths; psychotherapy; relationships; self; spousal abuse; stalking; psychopathology; therapy; intimacy; abuse; narcissist; psychopath; culture; battering; molesting; beating; stalker; offender; paranoid; possessiveness; romantic jealousy; verbal; psychological; emotional; physical; sexual; commitment; bonding; attachment; maturity; emotions; objectification; gratification; narcissistic personality disorder
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[movies]Stalked? Restraining Orders, Peace Bonds, Courts - Sam Vaknin
Involve the courts whenever possible. In many countries, the first step is to obtain a restraining order from a civil court as part of your divorce or custody proceedings or as a stand-alone measure. In some countries, the police applies to the court for an emergency protection order on your behalf. The difference between a protection order and a restraining order is that the former is obtained following an incident of domestic violence involving injury or damage to property, it is available imm...
Keywords: abuse; antisocial; battering; divorce; domestic violence; dsm-iv; ego; harassment; narcissism; narcissistic; narcissistic personality disorder; npd; object relations; personality; personality disorders; psychodynamics; psychopaths; psychotherapy; relationships; self; spousal abuse; stalking; psychopathology; therapy
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[movies]Abusive Ex: Tell Your Children the Truth! - Sam Vaknin
Children have a right to know the overall state of affairs between their parents. They have a right not to be cheated and deluded into thinking that "everything is basically OK" -- or that the separation is reversible. Both parents are under a moral obligation to tell their offspring the truth: the relationship is over for good. A responsible parent should teach the child how to resist inappropriate and hurtful actions...
Keywords: abuse; antisocial; battering; divorce; domestic violence; dsm-iv; ego; harassment; narcissism; narcissistic; narcissistic personality disorder; npd; object relations; personality; personality disorders; psychodynamics; psychopaths; psychotherapy; relationships; self; spousal abuse; stalking; psychopathology; therapy
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[movies]Forgive the Narcissist? - Sam Vaknin
Forgiving is an important capability. It does more for the forgiver than for the forgiven. But it should not be a universal, indiscriminate behaviour. It is legitimate not to forgive sometimes. It depends, of course, on the severity or duration of what was done to you. (From the book "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" by Sam Vaknin - Click on this link to purchase the print book, or 16 e-books, or 2 DVDs with 12 hours of video lectures on narcissists, psychopaths, and abuse in relations...
Keywords: abuse; antisocial; battering; divorce; domestic violence; dsm-iv; ego; harassment; narcissism; narcissistic; narcissistic personality disorder; npd; object relations; personality; personality disorders; psychodynamics; psychopaths; psychotherapy; relationships; self; spousal abuse; stalking; psychopathology; therapy
Downloads: 72
[movies]Paranoid Stalker Ex - Sam Vaknin
The most dangerous class of abusers is the paranoid-delusional. If your ex is one of these, he is likely to: Believe that you still love him (erotomania). Interpret everything you do or say -- even to third parties -- as "hidden messages" addressed to him and professing your undying devotion (ideas of reference). Confuse the physical with the emotional (regard sex as "proof" of love and be prone to rape you)...
Keywords: abuse; antisocial; battering; divorce; domestic violence; dsm-iv; ego; harassment; narcissism; narcissistic; narcissistic personality disorder; npd; object relations; personality; personality disorders; psychodynamics; psychopaths; psychotherapy; relationships; self; spousal abuse; stalking; psychopathology; therapy
Downloads: 52
[texts]Defeating Our Self-defeating Inner Voices - Sam Vaknin
Sometimes we need to confront our self-defeating inner voices - and defeat them!
Keywords: abuse; antisocial; battering; divorce; domestic violence; dsm-iv; ego; harassment; narcissism; narcissistic; narcissistic personality disorder; npd; object relations; personality; personality disorders; psychodynamics; psychopaths; psychotherapy; relationships; self; spousal abuse; stalking; psychopathology; therapy
Downloads: 71
[movies]Adapting to the Narcissist - Sam Vaknin
You cannot change people, not in the real, profound, deep sense. You can only adapt to them and adapt them to you. If you do find your narcissist rewarding at times â you should consider doing these: Determine your limits and boundaries. How much and in which ways can you adapt to him (i.e., accept him AS HE IS) and to which extent and in which ways would you like him to adapt to you (i.e., accept you as you are)...
Keywords: abuse; antisocial; battering; divorce; domestic violence; dsm-iv; ego; harassment; narcissism; narcissistic; narcissistic personality disorder; npd; object relations; personality; personality disorders; psychodynamics; psychopaths; psychotherapy; relationships; self; spousal abuse; stalking; psychopathology; therapy
Downloads: 47
[movies]Stalked: Get Help - Sam Vaknin
Your first "fallback" option is your family. They are, in many cases (though by no means always) your natural allies. They can provide you with shelter, money, emotional support, and advice. Don't hesitate to call on them in times of need. Your friends and, to a lesser extent, your colleagues and neighbours will usually lend you a sympathetic ear and will provide you with useful tips. Merely talking to them can not only ease the burden â but protect you from future abuse...
Keywords: abuse; antisocial; battering; divorce; domestic violence; dsm-iv; ego; harassment; narcissism; narcissistic; narcissistic personality disorder; npd; object relations; personality; personality disorders; psychodynamics; psychopaths; psychotherapy; relationships; self; spousal abuse; stalking; psychopathology; therapy
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[movies]Types of of Abusive Behaviors: A Proposed Classification - Sam Vaknin
Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html Abusive conduct is not a uniform, homogeneous phenomenon. It stems and emanates from multiple sources and manifests in myriad ways. Following are a few useful distinctions which pertain to abuse and could serve as organizing, taxonomical principles (dimensional typologies) in a kind of matrix of pain...
Keywords: abuse; antisocial; battering; divorce; domestic violence; dsm-iv; ego; harassment; narcissism; narcissistic; narcissistic personality disorder; npd; object relations; personality; personality disorders; psychodynamics; psychopaths; psychotherapy; relationships; self; spousal abuse; stalking; psychopathology; therapy
Downloads: 143
[movies]Stalked? Call Police and Law Enforcement! - Sam Vaknin
In most countries, the police must respond to your complaint. They cannot just file it away or suppress it. They must talk to you and to your partner separately and obtain written and signed statements from both parties. The police officer on the scene must inform you of your legal options. The officer in charge must also furnish you with a list of domestic violence shelters and other forms of help available in your community...
Keywords: abuse; antisocial; battering; divorce; domestic violence; dsm-iv; ego; harassment; narcissism; narcissistic; narcissistic personality disorder; npd; object relations; personality; personality disorders; psychodynamics; psychopaths; psychotherapy; relationships; self; spousal abuse; stalking; psychopathology; therapy
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[movies]Abusive Ex Leverages Children Against You - Sam Vaknin
The abuser often recruits his children to do his bidding. He uses them to tempt, convince, communicate, threaten, and otherwise manipulate his target, the children's other parent or a devoted relative (e.g., grandparents). He controls his - often gullible and unsuspecting - offspring exactly as he plans to control his ultimate prey. He employs the same mechanisms and devices. And he dumps his props unceremoniously when the job is done - which causes tremendous (and, typically, irreversible) emot...
Keywords: abuse; antisocial; battering; divorce; domestic violence; dsm-iv; ego; harassment; narcissism; narcissistic; narcissistic personality disorder; npd; object relations; personality; personality disorders; psychodynamics; psychopaths; psychotherapy; relationships; self; spousal abuse; stalking; psychopathology; therapy
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[audio]Third Conversation: Audrey Michelle Talks to Sam Vaknin about Narcissism, Abusive Relationships - Sam Vaknin
Audrey Michelle Talks to Sam Vaknin about Narcissism, Narcissists, and Abuse in Intimate Relationships - Third Conversation.
Keywords: abuse; antisocial; battering; divorce; domestic violence; dsm-iv; ego; harassment; narcissism; narcissistic; narcissistic personality disorder; npd; object relations; personality; personality disorders; psychodynamics; psychopaths; psychotherapy; relationships; self; spousal abuse; stalking; psychopathology; therapy
Downloads: 53
[movies]Interacting with Your Abuser - Sam Vaknin
Your abusive ex-partner will try to dazzle you with attention. Return all gifts he sends you â unopened and unacknowledged. Keep your communications with him to the bare, cold, minimum. Do not be impolite or abusive â it is precisely how he wants you to behave. It may be used against you in a court of law. Keep your cool but be firm. Do not let him re-enter your life surreptitiously. Stealth and ambient abuse are powerful tools...
Keywords: abuse; antisocial; battering; divorce; domestic violence; dsm-iv; ego; harassment; narcissism; narcissistic; narcissistic personality disorder; npd; object relations; personality; personality disorders; psychodynamics; psychopaths; psychotherapy; relationships; self; spousal abuse; stalking; psychopathology; therapy
Downloads: 46
[movies]Narcissist's Reality Substitutes - Sam Vaknin
To avoid the agonizing realization of his failed, defeat-strewn, biography, the narcissist resorts to reality-substitutes. The dynamics are simple: as the narcissist grows older, his Sources of Supply become scarcer, and his Grandiosity Gap yawns wider. Mortified by the prospect of facing his actuality, the narcissist withdraws ever deeper into a dreamland of concocted accomplishments, feigned omnipotence and omniscience, and brattish entitlement...
Keywords: narcissistic personality disorder; narcissist; narcissism; personality disorder; reality; introjects; pain; hurt; narcissistic supply; false self; true self; grandiosity gap; self-deception; confabulation; symbols; avatars; shield; paranoid; persecutory delusions; paranoia
Downloads: 59
[movies]Cope with Narcissists: Abandon or Mirror - Sam Vaknin
Dump him and go about reconstructing your own life. Very few people deserve the kind of investment that is an absolute prerequisite to life with a narcissist. To cope with a narcissist is a full time, energy and emotion-draining job, which reduces people around him to insecure nervous wrecks. Who deserves such a sacrifice? No one, to my mind, not even the most brilliant, charming, breathtaking, suave narcissist...
Keywords: abuse; antisocial; battering; divorce; domestic violence; dsm-iv; ego; harassment; narcissism; narcissistic; narcissistic personality disorder; npd; object relations; personality; personality disorders; psychodynamics; psychopaths; psychotherapy; relationships; self; spousal abuse; stalking; psychopathology; therapy
Downloads: 109
[movies]Closure with Abusers - Sam Vaknin
For her traumatic wounds to heal, the victim of abuse requires closure - one final interaction with her tormentor in which he, hopefully, acknowledges his misbehaviour and even tenders an apology. Fat chance. Few abusers - especially if they are narcissistic - are amenable to such weakling pleasantries. More often, the abused are left to wallow in a poisonous stew of misery, self-pity, and self-recrimination...
Keywords: abuse; antisocial; battering; divorce; domestic violence; dsm-iv; ego; harassment; narcissism; narcissistic; narcissistic personality disorder; npd; object relations; personality; personality disorders; psychodynamics; psychopaths; psychotherapy; relationships; self; spousal abuse; stalking; psychopathology; therapy
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[movies]Two Narcissists in a Couple - Sam Vaknin
Two narcissists of the same type (somatic, cerebral, classic, compensatory, inverted, etc.) cannot maintain a stable, long-term full-fledged, and functional relationship. But if the narcissists involved are of different types, if one of them is cerebral and the other one somatic, a long-term partnership based on the mutual provision of Narcissistic Supply can definitely survive. (From the book "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" by Sam Vaknin - Click on this link to purchase: http://www....
Keywords: abuse; antisocial; battering; divorce; domestic violence; dsm-iv; ego; harassment; narcissism; narcissistic; narcissistic personality disorder; npd; object relations; personality; personality disorders; psychodynamics; psychopaths; psychotherapy; relationships; self; spousal abuse; stalking; psychopathology; therapy
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[movies]Victims of Abuse: Recovery and Healing - Sam Vaknin
Victims of abuse in all its forms -- verbal, emotional, financial, physical, and sexual -- are often disorientated. They require not only therapy to heal their emotional wounds, but also practical guidance and topical education. At first, the victim is, naturally, distrustful and even hostile. The therapist or case worker must establish confidence and rapport painstakingly and patiently. The therapeutic alliance requires constant reassurance that the environment and treatment modalities chosen a...
Keywords: abuse; antisocial; battering; divorce; domestic violence; dsm-iv; ego; harassment; narcissism; narcissistic; narcissistic personality disorder; npd; object relations; personality; personality disorders; psychodynamics; psychopaths; psychotherapy; relationships; self; spousal abuse; stalking; psychopathology; therapy
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[movies]Effects of Abuse on Victims and Survivors - Sam Vaknin
Repeated abuse has long lasting pernicious and traumatic effects such as panic attacks, hypervigilance, sleep disturbances, flashbacks (intrusive memories), suicidal ideation, and psychosomatic symptoms. The victims experience shame, depression, anxiety, embarrassment, guilt, humiliation, abandonment, and an enhanced sense of vulnerability. (From the book "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" by Sam Vaknin - Click on this link to purchase: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/thebook.html)
Keywords: abuse; antisocial; battering; divorce; domestic violence; dsm-iv; ego; harassment; narcissism; narcissistic; narcissistic personality disorder; npd; object relations; personality; personality disorders; psychodynamics; psychopaths; psychotherapy; relationships; self; spousal abuse; stalking; psychopathology; therapy
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[movies]Abuse By Proxy - Sam Vaknin
Abusers often use other people to do their dirty work for them. If all else fails, the abuser recruits friends, colleagues, mates, family members, the authorities, institutions, neighbours, the media, teachers â in short, third parties â to do his bidding. He uses them to cajole, coerce, threaten, stalk, offer, retreat, tempt, convince, harass, communicate and otherwise manipulate his target. He controls these unaware instruments exactly as he plans to control his ultimate prey...
Keywords: abuse; antisocial; battering; divorce; domestic violence; dsm-iv; ego; harassment; narcissism; narcissistic; narcissistic personality disorder; npd; object relations; personality; personality disorders; psychodynamics; psychopaths; psychotherapy; relationships; self; spousal abuse; stalking; psychopathology; therapy
Downloads: 87
[movies]Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) in Victims and Survivors of Abuse - Sam Vaknin
Contrary to popular misconceptions, Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) and Acute Stress Disorder (or Reaction) are not typical responses to prolonged abuse. They are the outcomes of sudden exposure to severe or extreme stressors (stressful events). Yet, some victims whose life or body have been directly and unequivocally threatened by an abuser react by developing these syndromes. PTSD is, therefore, typically associated with the aftermath of physical and sexual abuse in both children and adu...
Keywords: abuse; antisocial; battering; divorce; domestic violence; dsm-iv; ego; harassment; narcissism; narcissistic; narcissistic personality disorder; npd; object relations; personality; personality disorders; psychodynamics; psychopaths; psychotherapy; relationships; self; spousal abuse; stalking; psychopathology; therapy
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[movies]Giving Narcissist Second Chance - Sam Vaknin
So, you go back to your "relationship" and hope for a better ending. You walk on eggshells. You become the epitome of submissiveness, a perfect Source of Narcissistic Supply, the ideal mate or spouse or partner or colleague. You keep your fingers crossed. But how does the narcissist react to the resurrection of the bond? (From the book "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" by Sam Vaknin - Click on this link to purchase: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/thebook.html)
Keywords: abuse; antisocial; battering; divorce; domestic violence; dsm-iv; ego; harassment; narcissism; narcissistic; narcissistic personality disorder; npd; object relations; personality; personality disorders; psychodynamics; psychopaths; psychotherapy; relationships; self; spousal abuse; stalking; psychopathology; therapy
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[movies]Bullying as Art, Abuse as Craftsmanship - Sam Vaknin
Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html Psychopathic bullies and abusers regard themselves as artists: their bullying is a form of perfected art and their abuse â the epitome of craftsmanship. They are proud of their âachievementsâ and happily recount instances of pain and hurt inflicted on their victims...
Keywords: abuse; antisocial; battering; divorce; domestic violence; dsm-iv; ego; harassment; narcissism; narcissistic; narcissistic personality disorder; npd; object relations; personality; personality disorders; psychodynamics; psychopaths; psychotherapy; relationships; self; spousal abuse; stalking; psychopathology; therapy
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[movies]Narcissists Rule: Narcissist in Positions of Authority - Sam Vaknin
Being in a position of authority secures the uninterrupted flow of Narcissistic Supply. Fed by the awe, fear, subordination, admiration, adoration and obedience of his underlings, parish, students, or patients â the narcissist thrives in such circumstances. The narcissist aspires to acquire authority by any means available to him. He may achieve this by making use of some outstanding traits or skills such as his intelligence, or through an asymmetry built into a relationship...
Keywords: narcissistic personality disorder; guru; pundit; medical doctor; professor; judge; police officer; psychiatrist; therapist; authority; narcissist; narcissism; exploitation; abuse; leader; psychopath; narcissistic supply; sex; adulation; attention; false self; subordinate; underling; employer; boss; chief; employee; politician; patient; student
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[movies]Stalked: Your Getaway - Planning and Executing It - Sam Vaknin
Do not leave unprepared. Study and execute every detail of your getaway. This is especially important if your partner is violent. Be sure to make a Safety Plan â how to get out of the house unnoticed and the indispensable minimum items that you should carry with you, even on a short notice. (From the book "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" by Sam Vaknin - Click on this link to purchase: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/thebook.html)
Keywords: abuse; antisocial; battering; divorce; domestic violence; dsm-iv; ego; harassment; narcissism; narcissistic; narcissistic personality disorder; npd; object relations; personality; personality disorders; psychodynamics; psychopaths; psychotherapy; relationships; self; spousal abuse; stalking; psychopathology; therapy
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[movies]Cope with Somatic Narcissist's Infidelity - Sam Vaknin
If you insist on staying with him -- you must also be prepared to serve as a Source of Narcissistic Supply, an alternative to the supply provided by his former lover. You must brace yourself: serving as a Narcissistic Supply Source is an onerous task, a full time job and a very ungrateful one at that. The narcissist's thirst for adulation, admiration, worship, approval, and attention can never by quenched...
Keywords: abuse; antisocial; battering; divorce; domestic violence; dsm-iv; ego; harassment; narcissism; narcissistic; narcissistic personality disorder; npd; object relations; personality; personality disorders; psychodynamics; psychopaths; psychotherapy; relationships; self; spousal abuse; stalking; psychopathology; therapy
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[movies]Narcissist and Psychopath Coping Techniques - Sam Vaknin
There are a few techniques which work wonders with abusers. Some psychologists recommend to treat repeat offenders as one would toddlers. The abuser is, indeed, an immature brat -- though a dangerous one, endowed as he is with the privileges and capabilities of an adult. Sometimes ignoring his temper tantrums until it is over is a wise policy. But not very often -- and, definitely not as a rule. (From the book "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" by Sam Vaknin - Click on this link to purc...
Keywords: abuse; antisocial; battering; divorce; domestic violence; dsm-iv; ego; harassment; narcissism; narcissistic; narcissistic personality disorder; npd; object relations; personality; personality disorders; psychodynamics; psychopaths; psychotherapy; relationships; self; spousal abuse; stalking; psychopathology; therapy
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[movies]Stalker Psychology - Sam Vaknin
Contrary to myths perpetuated by the mass media, studies show that most stalkers are men, have high IQ's, advanced degrees, and are middle aged (Meloy and Gothard, 1995; and Morrison, 2001). Rejected stalkers are intrusive and inordinately persistent. They recognize no boundaries â personal or legal. They honor to "contracts" and they pursue their target for years. They interpret rejection as a sign of the victim's continued interest and obsession with them...
Keywords: abuse; antisocial; battering; divorce; domestic violence; dsm-iv; ego; harassment; narcissism; narcissistic; narcissistic personality disorder; npd; object relations; personality; personality disorders; psychodynamics; psychopaths; psychotherapy; relationships; self; spousal abuse; stalking; psychopathology; therapy
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[movies]Mourning the Narcissist - Sam Vaknin
At the commencement of the relationship, the Narcissist is a dream-come-true. He is often intelligent, witty, charming, good looking, an achiever, empathetic, in need of love, loving, caring, attentive and much more. He is the perfect bundled answer to the nagging questions of life: finding meaning, companionship, compatibility and happiness. He is, in other words, ideal. It is difficult to let go of this idealized figure...
Keywords: abuse; antisocial; battering; divorce; domestic violence; dsm-iv; ego; harassment; narcissism; narcissistic; narcissistic personality disorder; npd; object relations; personality; personality disorders; psychodynamics; psychopaths; psychotherapy; relationships; self; spousal abuse; stalking; psychopathology; therapy
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[movies]Can You Love the Narcissist and Rescue Him? - Sam Vaknin
I believe in the possibility of loving narcissists if one accepts them unconditionally, in a disillusioned and expectation-free manner. Narcissists are narcissists. Take them or leave them. Some of them are lovable. Most of them are highly charming and intelligent. The source of the misery of the victims of the narcissist is their disappointment, their disillusionment, their abrupt and tearing and tearful realisation that they fell in love with an ideal of their own making, a phantasm, an illusi...
Keywords: narcissist; narcissistic-personality-disorder; intimacy; love; bonding; attachment; rescue; healing; recovery; cure; treatment; couple; spouse; marriage; friendship; idealization; devaluation; narcissistic supply; adulation; attention; significant other; intimate partner; mate; friend; help; support
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